Does Uni Live Up to the Hype?

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Hey gang,

Lil' disclaimer before you read this post: I wrote this well over a year and a half ago, I hardly even remember writing it. However I found it in my drafts recently and thought it was worth a share. I still agree with pretty much everything I've said here, but I thought it was worth noting. 

Going to uni is meant to be the pivotal moment in your life. When you leave behind your days as a childish sixth former who still only drinks WKDs to become your new form; the super cool university student.

So here’s what you think will happen: your parents drop you off (absolutely no tears because you’re far too mature now), you walk into your kitchen to find your 5 best-friend-soul-mates that you instantly click with and stay friends with for your entire lives. Since you’re super cool now and drink vodka or Jack Daniels instead of alcopops, you and your new bezzies drunkenly party the year away, wearing matching ‘Battle of the Halls’ T-shirts, while miraculously keeping up with all of your work and joining a tonne of societies. You go home at Christmas wondering why anyone wouldn’t want to go to university…

But the reality is, it’s 4 weeks in, you’ve only seen some of your flatmates once, and the kitchen is a cold reminder of all the fun you should be having. You stir your spaghetti bolognaise alone wondering if this really is going to be the best year of your life. Not to mention it doesn’t taste anything like your mum’s.

I don’t think university is the 3 year fun fest that the media make it out to be. How many times have you been told that your university days will be the best time of your life, that you’ll find love, you’ll choose a career, you’ll do ground-breaking study into your chosen field? It’s even harder these days, lying in bed wondering why Kate-on-snapchat looks like she’s having way more fun than you?
University is hard enough without the societal expectation for you to be ‘loving life’ sitting on your shoulders.

I think there’s some kind of misconception that you have 1 week to make it all count. By the Sunday of Freshers Week you’re meant to have it all down, the best mates, the drunken stories, the feeling of responsibility when you order your first Tesco shop. But it is completely okay to not have it down by then, in fact the people that fell in love with uni after a single week are the real anomalies. Most of the time, what we hear about uni being  incredible are the opinions of older people looking back at uni through rose-tinted glasses, forgetting the amount of lonely nights they spent in their bedrooms.

It is so hard not to build up expectations for university in your head before arriving, but one of the most important things you can do is not let it get to you. When you’re feeling lonely in your tiny halls bedroom you can forget how incredible university can be. It is never too late to make new friends at university, and never too late to join a society, or take up a sport. Where else but uni could you try your hand at being a Radio DJ, practice yoga, join the hockey team, write for the newspaper, and so much more? Uni doesn’t have to live up to how it looks on the telly, or how your older brother tells you it is, uni isn’t for everyone, but not living up to these expectations definitely shouldn’t stop you from carving your own path at uni.


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  1. I couldn't agree more with this! Uni can be such a lonely place at times. I'm currently in my third year on my year abroad, and like uni, the year abroad experience has been completely romanticised. There's no doubt that it's been an amazing experience, but it's so easy to feel somewhat deflated. Loved this!

    Evie x |